Be selfless! Keep it sexy! Have regular date nights! Wait for kids! Have kids when you’re younger! Communicate!

This.is.hard. These are all pieces of advice you receive from people who genuinely want the best for your marriage! The advice above is actually solid advice. The problem is how do you do these things? How do I become selfless when I feel my spouse isn’t meeting my needs adequately? How do I keep it sexy when the “thrill” of newlywed sparkle is gone? How in the heck do you have regular date nights when your work schedules are completely opposite?